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Do you have children in school, perhaps in elementary school and you are having lots of problems with what they wear to school? Are you having problems every morning, having an argument with even the preschool ones and also the older siblings? Do you dread waking up in the morning because you know you are going to have stress from one child or perhaps more not wanting to let you decide what they wear to school? Perhaps you are trying at night to help them decide or even deciding yourself and they are saying oh yes I'll wear that outfit and then the next morning one or more of the children changes their mind and here the arguments and the stress begin again.
It is time to change this situation that is causing you stress and yes even the child or children are having stress also, let's try to eliminate this major problem in your home, actually if you decide to take care you can do this, it won't be easy but think of the days you won't have this stress. Children for the most part in elementary school are not old enough to have the ability and maturity to make these decisions.
First of all you need to develop a routine, if your decision is to consult the child and really that's not a good idea, then you need to be sure that the decision made the night before is going to stay the next morning. Now you'll need to do some organizing of the child's closet, chest of drawers, accessories, shoes, etc. to have everything in place to be able to coordinate the shoes, accessories, pants, shirts, etc. easily without having to dig through the closet, look on the floor for items to dress the child or children.
Clothes should be neatly folded in place and hung in the closet and the necessary items for school ready to be coordinated and made ready for the next morning. You may not think this is necessary, but do you want to pick up a shirt that has been on the floor and find it dirty or wrinkled? Avoid that hassle and get it neat the first time: less tension, stress and you'll be happier you did all this ahead of time. Really, shouldn't we all live neat and teach the little ones to be organized and neat? Sure, we should.
Another thought is that once the child is dressed and ready for school he or she may have that time to play with toys or just do whatever he or she may like while you can make your approval. If you will get on a schedule and tell them that they must be dressed by a certain time you can accomplish this very easily.
Remember you are the parent and he or she is your child and you have the ability and, yes, you should be making clothing decisions during these earlier years and if you start being in control when they begin even preschool you can remain in control until you feel they are old enough to make clothing decisions, perhaps as they enter junior high school or even earlier depending on the maturity of the individual child.
If you have waited and not set forth rules before now, remember always you are the parent and he or she is the child and set these rules and see that they are required.
You don't have to tell your child they have certain priviledges if they do wear the clothing the clothing that you have requested. And naturally your child can help make these decisions within limits, say he wants to wear his favorite red shirt on Monday, sure he can and he will learn how to color cordinate and accessorize his wardrobe for school but you will have the final decision. So start out on Monday morning and take control of your child's clothing for school.
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